क्रिकेट के भगवान सचिन

सचिन तेंदुलकर ने वनडे क्रिकेट में इतिहास रचने के बाद अपने दोहरे शतक को भारतीय लोगों को समर्पित किया है. तेंदुलकर ने मैच के बाद भारतीय क्रिकेट प्रेमियों का आभार व्यक्त किया. उन्होंने कहा,''मैं नहीं जानता कि इस उपलब्धि पर कैसे प्रतिक्रिया करूं. मैं इस दोहरे शतक को भारतीय जनता को समर्पित करता हूँ जो पिछले 20 साल से मेरे उतार-चढ़ावों में हमेशा मेरा साथ देते रहे हैं. मैं उनके सहयोग को कभी नहीं भुला सकता.'' मैच के बाद उन्होंने कहा कि जब वो 175 रन के पार पहुंच गए थे तब उन्हें लगा कि 200 रन के जादुई आंकड़े को छुआ जा सकता है. उन्होंने कहा,''जब मैं 175 रन के पार पहुंच गया तब मुझे लगा कि मैं दोहरे शतक तक पहुंच सकता हूँ. लेकिन मैं इसी के बारे में नहीं सोच रहा था. जब मैं इसके बेहद क़रीब पहुँच गया तभी इस बारे में मैंने सोचना शुरू किया.''

ऐतिहासिक पारी


उल्लेखनीय है कि सचिन तेंदुलकर ने बुधवार को दक्षिण अफ्रीका के ख़िलाफ़ ग्वालियर में नाबाद 200 रन बनाए थे. मैं नहीं जानता कि इस उपलब्धि पर कैसे प्रतिक्रिया करूं. मैं इस दोहरे शतक को भारतीय जनता को समर्पित करता हूँ जो पिछले 20 साल से मेरे उतार-चढ़ावों में हमेशा मेरा साथ देते रहे हैं. सचिन तेंदुलकर वो वनडे में दोहरा शतक बनाने वाले दुनिया के पहले बल्लेबाज़ बन गए हैं. बाद में पत्रकारों से बातचीत में सचिन तेंदुलकर ने कहा कि रिकॉर्ड तो टूटने के लिए ही बनते हैं. सचिन ने कहा कि वो अपनी क्रिकेट का पूरा आनंद उठा रहे हैं और उन्हें खुशी है कि उनकी पारी से टीम ने बड़ी जीत दर्ज की.


सचिन ने कप्तान महेंद्र सिंह धोनी, दिनेश कार्तिक और यूसुफ पठान की भी तारीफ़ की जिन्होंने उनका साथ दिया.


बी बी सी के सौजन्य से

10 Habits of happy couples

What does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you’re working to improve your marriage, here are a few habits of happy couples.

1. Go to bed at the same time

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.


2. Cultivate common interests

After the passion settles down, it’s common to realise that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimise the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.


3. Walk hand in hand or side by side

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.


4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.


5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong

If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.


6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work

Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.


7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning

This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.


8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel

This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.


9. Do a “weather” check during the day

Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.


10. Be proud to be seen with your partner

Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact - hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behaviour that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behaviour to become a habit. So select one of the behaviours in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit...and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.


If there was one key to happiness in love and life, and possibly even success, it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, "Just Listen."



from the indiatimes network

Women men love to hate

Men love women, while women continue finding endless reason to loathe a man. Reasons like a man’s high sex drive, abusive lingo, his dominating behaviour or chauvinist traits are often looked down upon by the fairer sex.

 

But what if men also start putting women in certain stereotypes and chose their mate based on these guidelines. Sounds interesting! Be it a woman's jealous behaviour, her over-the-top attitude or her gregariousness– these traits can also irk a male partner. It's a fact that men consider these attributes while choosing a potential mate.

Here are the most typical female typecasts as defined by men.

Jealous / over possessive all the time : If you thought that the best way to hold on to your man is to be over possessive and go green with envy every time he hangs around with other girls, it’s time for a reality check! Boys like to be a one-woman man, but they won’t really appreciate your jealous behaviour if it's a recurrent behavioural trait.

Here’s why : Dr. Shivani Gupte, a clinical psychologist reasons, “Jealously comes when you are over possessive about a person and in case of men, they need their space in a relationship. But if you behave like a watchdog or keep a tab on every girl around them, it is irking. Not only will such behaviour act as a turn off, but it will also show how insecure you are about your guy.”

Attitude problems : It's good to carry a distinct attitude, but if you inadvertently show too much of it in front of your man, things may turn sour. Girls often like to be known for their pompous touch-me-not attitude, but showing it all the time can make you look like an arrogant and egotistical lady, and men don’t really find that alluring.

Here’s why : Dr. Karunesh Sharma, a marriage counsellor says, “A man can stand all kinds of tantrums you throw, but when it comes to attitude problems, it’s his self-respect and ego that come to the fore, so do not expect any compromises here. Even if you’re too supercilious, it’s advised to keep aside your attitude and respect the man you’re with.”

Material Gal : ‘She wants your money’ – you’d have heard the phrase many a times and might have believed it too that most girls get into a relationship depending upon their guy’s bank balance. But men seem to have become smarter nowadays. Most guys don't believe in taking their girl out for a luxurious date, buying her expensive clothes and opulent gifts. The moment a guy realises that his girl is more interested in his money and not him; it will put him off.

Here’s why : Dr. Amita Mishra, a relationship expert opines, “Men are perceived to be the providers, but this develops at a later stage when he's married and has a family to look after. But if you think that they will fulfill all your monetary demands, paying your shopping and restaurant bills, you are mistaken. Being overtly materialistic, often dilutes the actual meaning of being in a relationships. So men are less likely to get attracted to a girl who gives too much priority to money.”

Drama queen : If you create too much drama whenever you seek attention from your man, you are in for a lot of trouble. Men are not keen to be seen with a crybaby or someone who creates a big fuss out of every small issue.

Here’s why : Dr. Shivani adds, “Behaving a tad too loud in a relationship often points out to the fact that you're seeking attention and wanting to be the topic of discussion. Reacting to situations in a dramatic way can't get the purpose solved every time because you need to portray yourself as a strong and independent woman and not an emotional dependent with teary tales.”

Too progressive : Agreed that it’s a modern world and no girl wants to be seen in an old fashioned salwar kameez or sari. But does your guy love your modernistic approach? Well, maybe not! At least when it comes to meeting his family, guys expect to have a homely woman who blends modern and traditional values.

Here’s why : Dr. Sharma asserts, “Being overtly modern can backfire sometimes, as it’s often believed that when it comes to choosing a mate, men often look up to their moms, seeking similar attributes in their wives. Though it’s not bad to be modern, but it’s equally important to maintain your moral values and be in sync with the Indian culture, which men surely appreciate.”

From the Times of India, 18th Feb'10

प्यार की गंगा बहे देश में एका रहे !!

Mile sur mera tumhaara . . .

गूगल देव को प्रणाम

तैंतीस हज़ार करोड़ देवी देवताओं की जमात में जल्दी ही एक नाम और जुड़ने वाला है. भगवान गूगल का.

भगवान गूगल की महिमा अपरंपार है. वो सर्वज्ञानी हैं. सभी समस्याओं के बारे में जानते हैं और उनके पास समाधान भी है.

जिन मामलों में आम देवता कुछ नहीं कर सकते गूगल उनमें भी मदद कर सकते हैं.

पढ़ाई करनी हो, शादी करनी हो, दुःख प्रकट करना हो, खुशी प्रकट करनी हो, सब में गूगल महाराज की मदद ली जा सकती है.

उनके दस हाथ या दस सर नहीं हैं बल्कि लाखों हाथ और सर हैं जिन्हें वेबपेज कहा जाता है.

कुछ भी जानना हो तो गूगल देव को याद कीजिए. मात्र स्मरण भर से पुण्य मिलता है और सवाल पूछते ही जवाब मिल जाता है.

बड़े फ़ायदे हैं गूगल के तभी वो देवताओं की श्रेणी में शामिल होने ही वाले हैं. अगर नहीं मानते हैं तो याद कीजिए आखिरी बार किसी सवाल के जवाब के लिए आपने कौन सी किताब उठाई थी?

या फिर किसी दोस्त से किसी तथ्य की प्रमाणिकता के लिए आपने कब किसी अख़बार का हवाला दिया था?

कोई तथ्य प्रमाणिक न लगे तो सीधे गूगल महाराज की शरण में जाना आपको ज़रुर याद आएगा.

हां ये बात और है कि गूगल महाराज आपको संपादित सामग्री नहीं देते. वो दुनिया भर की सारी जानकारी आपको दे देते हैं. उसमें सही और ग़लत क्या है ये आपको ही तय करना है.

गूगल देव का सबसे बड़ा वरदान पत्रकारों को मिला है. उनकी भूमिका जर्नलिज़्म में इतनी बड़ी है कि कई लोग अब जर्नलिज़्म की बजाय गूगलिज़्म करते हैं और उनके लिखे ( या चुराए?) गए लेख काफ़ी पसंद भी किए जाते हैं.

हां गूगल देव के किसी दूसरे भक्त ने देवता की मदद से ये चोरी पकड़ ली तो बात और है.

गूगल की महिमा बताने वाली एक किताब है, 'व्हाट वुड गूगल डू' यानी गूगल क्या करता.

ये किताब गूगल देव की असीम लोकप्रियता और सफलता के बारे में बताते हुए सलाह देता है कि आज के युग में कुछ भी करना हो तो ये ध्यान करें कि अगर गूगल देव आपकी स्थिति में होते तो क्या करते? बस उस कार्य में सफलता आपके क़दम चूम सकती है. पुस्तक के बारे में और जानकारी के लिए गूगल पर पुस्तक का नाम टाइप कर सकते हैं.

लेकिन गूगल देव आप पर कितने मेहरबान हैं इसके भी उपाय हैं यानी देवता को क्या भेंट करना है तो देवता प्रसन्न हों ये भी जानना ज़रुरी है.

मसलन अगर आप चाहते हैं कि सर्च में आपकी सामग्री सबसे ऊपर दिखे तो उसके भी तरीके हैं जिसकी जानकारी या कंसल्टेंसी के लिए गूगल देव के पुजारी अच्छी ख़ासी दक्षिणा लेते हैं.

प्रभु को खुश करने के लिए दक्षिणा तो देनी पड़ती ही है.

वैसे इंटरनेट रुपी ब्रहांड में और भी देवता हैं जो गूगल देव से बराबरी करना चाहते हैं मसलन याहू देव, एओएल देव इत्यादि लेकिन गूगल का स्थान गणेश जी की तरह है. सबसे पहला.

इंटरनेट के ब्रहांड में सबसे पहले गूगल की पूजा होती है.

अब अक्सर जब लोगों को अपनी लोकप्रियता की चिंता होने लगती है या यह सवाल सताने लगता है कि दुनिया में लोग उन्हें जानते भी हैं या नहीं, तो वे फिर गूगल की ही शरण में जाते हैं.

सर्च में जाकर अपना नाम डालिए और गूगल बता देगा कि इंटरनेट की दुनिया में आपकी पहचान कितनी बड़ी है.

ऐसे गूगल देव को शत-शत प्रणाम, जिनके बिना जीवन मुश्किल ही नहीं असंभव सा लगने लगा है.

सुशील झा

बी बी सी हिंदी

भारतीय खिलाड़ियों को कपड़े तक नसीब नहीं !!

हिंदुस्तान का तो ठीक है जानिये हिंदुस्तान के बाहर अपने ओलंपिक खिलाडियों की बदहाली का आलम, सरकार अपने देश में रह रहे अरबों  नागरिकों का ख्याल तो रख नहीं सकती दूसरे देश में खेलने जा रहे खिलाडियों के लिए कुछ आशा करना बेमानी बात होगी.

कनाडा के वैंकूवर में शुरु विंटर ओलंपिक की पदक तालिका में भारत कहां पर होगा, इसका अंदाजा इसी से लगाया जा सकता है कि उसके खिलाड़ियों के पास न पहनने को यूनीफ़ॉर्म थे और न ही उन्हें पर्याप्त धन मुहैया कराया गया.

कनाडा की स्थानीय मीडिया ने इस मुद्दे को उठाया जिसके बाद वहां रह रहे भारतीय समुदाय के लोग मदद के लिए आगे आए.

खेल से जुड़े सामान बेचने वाले एक दुकानदार ने तीन सदस्यीय भारतीय दल को ट्रैक सूट मुफ़्त में दे दिया ताकि वे उदघाटन समारोह में शामिल हो सकें.

दुकानदार ने कहा कि अब वे भारतीय ऱाष्ट्रीय ध्वज तैयार कर रहे हैं ताकि खिलाड़ियों के यूनीफ़ॉर्म में उसे लगाया जा सके.

एक स्थानीय पंजाबी रेडिये स्टेशन ने ये ख़बर मिलते ही भारतीय समुदाय के लोगों से आर्थिक मदद के लिए आगे आने की अपील की.

शर्मनाक

भारतीय दल में एक लूगर (बर्फ़ पर रेसिंग करने वाले खिलाड़ी) और दो स्कीइंग खिलाड़ी हैं.

लूगर शिवा केशवन का ल्यूज (जिसके सहारे रेस होती है) भी भारत में वकीलों ने उपहार स्वरूप दिया था

पाँच वकीलों ने मिल कर साढ़े चार लाख रूपए केशवन को दिए जिससे उन्होंने नया ल्यूज ख़रीदा. नवंबर तक वह अपने पुराने ल्यूज़ से अभ्यास कर रहे थे जिसमें कई जगह टेप लगे थे और स्क्रू लगाकर टाइट रखा गया था लेकिन वह टूट गया.

मदद के लिए आगे आए दुकानदार टीजे जोहाल ने स्थानीय मीडिया सीबीसी को बताया कि जब उन्होंने सुना कि भारतीय दल के पास उदघाटन समारोह में शामिल होने के लिए यूनीफ़ॉर्म नहीं हैं, तो वह दंग रह गए.

उनका कहना था, "मेरी पहली प्रतिक्रिया थी कि कोई मज़ाक कर रहा है. वे भारत से हैं जो कपड़ों का देश है और उनके पास कपड़े नहीं हैं? लेकिन तीसरी दुनिया के देशों की यही सच्चाई है."

रेडियो स्टेशन आरजे 1200 की मालिक सुषमा दत्त ने बीबीसी को बताया कि उन्होंने रेडिये के ज़रिए अपील करके लोगों से आठ हज़ार कनाडाई डॉलर इकट्ठे किए हैं.

भारतीय टीम के कप्तान शिवा केशवन ने इस मदद के लिए आभार व्यक्त किया है. उन्होंने कहा, "दुनिया के दूसरे कोने में अपने समुदाय के लोगों से इस तरह की मदद से मुझे गर्व महसूस हो रहा है."

केशवन ने बताया कि वह चौथी बार विंटर ओलंपिक में हिस्सा ले रहे हैं. वो कहते हैं कि एक दशक तक खेलने के बाद पहली बार भारत सरकार ने पिछले साल उन्हें 20 हज़ार डॉलर की राशि उपलब्ध कराई थी.

भारतीय सरकार को शर्म आनी चाहिए की कम से कम देश की इज्ज़त का देश के बहार तो कोई रखवाला नियुक्त करे, ये पहली बार नहीं है की ऐसा कुछ हुआ हो, ऐसे वाकये होते रहे हैं और होते रहेंगे जब तक की कोई इन बातों की सुध नहीं लेता.

बी बी सी की हिंदी सेवा से प्रेरित !

Proposal Panga's

Valentine's knocking on the door making some more than happy and some more than nervous, here are some moral boosters for the latter kind.

What if she slaps me?

Most negative outcomes occur only in our minds, not in the real world. A woman won’t be mean to you unless you act like a jerk. Even if she turns you down, she’ll love being approached.

Gyaan: To excel in life, you have to push through your fears. Those who do, become champions.

She’ll think it’s too soon...

Real men don’t wait for the woman’s approval. He leads and she follows. She prefers it, but will never tell you. Any time you feel is a good time to ask her out.

Gyaan: It’s better to move fast and apologise, than move too slow and be put in the friend zone forever.

She’s always with friends...

Approach her group and involve everyone in conversation. It’s a huge turn-on for a woman to see a man hold court among her friends. Get her number so that you can exchange information about something she said during the conversation.

Gyaan: The harder the situation, the more she’ll appreciate your effort.

I freeze when I see her

You freeze because you care, and you care because you view her as the prize. Imagine ‘you’re the prize that she is pursuing. Tease her playfully. Each time you meet her, accuse her of stalking you.

Gyaan: Accusing a woman of treating you like a sex object leads to fun flirtations and never-ending conversations.

We’re too friendly to get romantic

She needs to see you as a sexual being. Step up your sexual communication. If she touches you accidentally, say with a cocky smile, ‘You’re touching me a lot lately.’ Or say, ‘Oh my God, you smell great. What are you wearing?’

Gyaan: Don’t abruptly get into boyfriend mode and send her flowers. That’ll make things awkward.

What do i say?

Whether it’s the first date or the first kiss, if it’s a big deal for you, it’ll be a big deal for her as well. Never ask a woman out straight on, instead tell her you’re going and she can join you.

Gyaan: Women prefer a man who is already having fun, so that they can join in too. It makes them feel as if they are already a part of his plans.

What if she tells her friends?

Well, then all the girls will know that you’re a sexual being and all the guys will wish they had your guts. Celebrate it, man!

Gyaan: When we see a man approach a woman, even if he’s rejected, we secretly admire his courage.

Maybe she’s taken...

Maybe she’s in a serious relationship; maybe she has a boyfriend... If you don’t approach and learn later that she was single, you’ll be kicking yourself, won’t you? So it is better to deal with this head on... There’s no other way in a relationship, buddy.

Gyaan: The pain of regret is worse than that of rejection. If she says no, at least you’d have tried... Else you’ll be kicking yourself for life.

Maybe I’m not her type

Men often assume ‘she’ is beyond their league. Here’s a secret: There is one type of man women are attracted to — the alpha male. A dominant, well-groomed, funny guy who is the social centre of the room.

Gyaan: With practice, any man (regardless of age, looks or bank balance) can learn to be the alpha male.

The basics will do

Only a few men approach women. Just having the guts to do so does the trick. Don’t approach her with the objective of making her like you. Do it with the objective of making her have a better time than before.

Can't do without you, Men!

They love to love us. But they love to hate us more. They can do without us. But they can’t do without us even more. We drive them up the wall. But we send lovely shivers down their spine. We make the walls seem like better companions. But we act as their walls against all the world’s troubles. That’s the man for women. So simple, and yet the biggest complication in every woman’s life. Every lady worth her salt, would, at least once in her life, have wished for a world without men. But, on hindsight, they beg to differ.  

There are several reasons every woman lists for wanting ‘life’s biggest catastrophe (a.k.a a man) in her life. The women might be child-bearing machines, like Hitler once famously suggested, but without men, won't the machines just gather dust? But, not anymore! Scientists have recently used embryonic stem cells to make synthetic sperm and suggest that at some vague point, women will be able to breed without men. “Well, that does seem like a good option,” muses an undecided Avantika Raj, management consultant, “But, what’s life without a little (or a lot of) action? But jokes apart, men are an extremely evolved race. And at the risk of sounding anti-feminist, I shudder to think of a world ruled by only women leaders. It would be cat-fight chaos!”

 

Agreeing with her is star-wife Vandana Srikanth. She says, “Life would be the opposite of bliss without men. A girl must always have a man in her life — be it her father, husband, son, friend or brother. However much we may argue, we need men to protect us against the odds we face.”

But, it’s not only for the protection that women need the Y chromosome. “The element of XY is required to maintain the balance. Men are like museum specimens — you can learn a lot from them, and even more from their mistakes!” chuckles Dr Priya Selvaraj, “You learn that you need not be intelligent to be strong! And as much as I believe in the power of the woman, I love men, for functioning without them, would be like working without an arm and a leg.”

 

Next up, whoever said girls’ nights out were all about the girls? If anything, it is anything but about them. Whether it is discussing her boyfriend’s annoying toilet habits or her neighbour’s cuter-than-thou dimple, ‘man’ is the keyword. Model Sneha Shekar agrees, “As much as we hate admitting it, even on a girls’ night out, we end up discussing men. On a night out with my chicas, we do tend to ogle and discuss in detail, the entity that is the man. That’s the prerequisite of any ladies’ night. And after all the woe-pouring, at the end of the night, we come to the conclusion that we cannot do without ’em.” Actress Vega, who just recently flew down from the US, found that men were the perfect pastime too! “I, along with my friend, scanned the entire flight for good-looking men, to keep us occupied throughout the long journey,” she chirps.

However, it is musician, Bushra Husain who sums it up best. She says, “In a world without men, I believe that music would be nonsense. A concert would become like a science lecture and lyrics would become like numbers. Romantic songs and duets would become obsolete. What would we sing about? Changing diapers, maid servant angst and shopping? Men are the music in women’s lives. And together, they rock the world.”

from the indiatimes network.

Tips for being simply irresistible

The following tips work for anyone, single or married, male or female, who would like to increase his or her overall attractiveness and become simply irresistible.

1 Let the world come to you

Mary had a crush on a particular fellow. Her heart just pitter-pattered every time she saw him. In an attempt to win his heart, she invited him to dinner one Friday night. Mary started planning a five-course menu – apricot brandy liver pâté, vichyssoise, chicken sautéed with shallots, cream and white wine sauce served on a bed of rice with asparagus, followed by a green salad and then dessert of homemade heart-shaped shortbread cookies and lemon sorbet. She took the day off from work to cook. When he arrived with a bottle of wine, Mary made the mistake of telling him that she had taken the day off from work to prepare. This put undue pressure on the situation. They couldn’t eat a fraction of the food. After dinner, they kissed a bit, but then he decided to leave. They saw each other, perhaps two additional times, but Mary was the one trying to get close. He really wasn’t at all interested. At the time, Mary was heartbroken.

Now Mary sees that she was throwing herself at him – how unattractive! She could have cooked something simpler and not needed to take the day off from work either. She was trying too hard to get him to like her and that ruined any chance of having a relationship. When you are attractive, people come naturally to you and effortlessly. You don’t have to seduce them or get them to like you or win them over. It takes work to seduce someone, attraction is natural and effortless.


2 Make your home a sanctuary

Your environment has tremendous impact on your psyche. In fact, it has been said that your environment is a reflection of your mental state. Take a look around you. Do you feel special, surrounded by things that you thoroughly enjoy? The idea is to love every single painting or piece of artwork that you have displayed. For objects that are too good to throw out, put them in cardboard box in your closet or better yet, give them to friends or charity. The objective is to make your home not only clean and organized, but also a reflection of who you are. The first place is to start your bedroom. Make it your haven, a place to retreat and relax. If you have a TV, move it out and you’ll sleep better. Set up your home so that it gives you energy. Take the time to make your home a sanctuary and it will restore and refresh you every day.

3 Keep a gratitude list

One way to attract more of what you want in life is to be grateful for what you already have, even if it is not enough. It would be a good idea to write down everything you are grateful for – your health, or a beautiful sunrise, or a hot cup of coffee. So what is the attraction principle here? What you focus on expands. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will attract even less. If you focus on what you do have, you will attract even more. If you are too needy or desperate, you will end up repelling the very thing you want to attract.

4 Smile, be happy!

There is something so attractive about a smile. If you want to be irresistible, smile. It takes more energy to frown and be grumpy than it does to be happy. Make a list of all those things that make you happy and start doing them immediately. For example, someone takes a bubble bath complete with candles, a glass of white win and good book. This helped her relax and unwind after a stressful day at work. Someone else decided to bike to work instead rive and found this was a simple way to build in daily exercise and made him feel great at the start of every day. However, if you are not in the habit of smiling, fake it a bit. Smile at least fifty people and may it a practice. A scientific study has proved that when you smile, the muscle movement releases endorphins in your body and you actually feel better.

5 Listen like you’ve never listened before

Most people like to think they are good listeners. Very few people actually are. Listening is an art and like any skill, takes practice. We were taught to speak, but never to listen. Listening is very attractive. As a general rule, the ideal guideline would be to talk 20 per cent of the time and listen 80 per cent of the time. Try this today and see what happens.

6 Acknowledge people profoundly

one simple and highly effective way to become irresistible is to convert your compliments into acknowledgments. People get compliments fairly often: “Oh what a wonderful sweater!” Or, “You sure look handsome today!” Don’t get me wrong, compliments are great but acknowledgements are even better. An acknowledgment is about who the person is, while a compliment is usually about what the person has or does. For example, “Robert I really appreciate the support you’ve shown coming all the way from New Jersey to attend this workshop. Your presence lights up this workshop. Now that’s an acknowledgment; it is very personal and leaves Robert feeling great about himself. People will want to be around you if you are in the habit of giving acknowledgments. Just change this one little thing and you’ll immediately be more attractive.

7 Be sensuous

You have to slow down to become sensuous. Being sensual is not about sex, but about relishing your senses of sight, sound, taste, touch and smell. Savour life and all it’s flavours and textures, its colours and shapes. We are physical beings in a physical world designed to be enjoyed and appreciated. In the rush of life, it is easy to neglect the purely sensual side of our nature. To get back into the groove, after a bath or shower, rub scented body oil all over. Do this slowly massaging and enjoying the curves and lines of your body, the silky feel of your own skin and the oil. Drink champagne to toast the sunset, wear clothes that are irresistible to touch – soft cashmere, silk and angora and listen to music that you love. Go all out – remember you are a sensuous being.

8 Be an angel

Newsweek reported in a cover story that more than 60 percent of the population believes in angels. If you were an angel, what would you do for the people in your life? What secret favour could you do without them getting to know about it? Once you start doing angel acts, you will radiate and glow from the inside out. However, have your need met first, or else you will never you’ll never be ready to give freely and easily. When you have your need fully met you can afford to give without needing anything in return. Here are some examples of angel acts: drop cash off in an unmarked envelope for a friend or relative who is having a tough time financially. Send an anonymous donation to charity of your choice. Do a good deed or random acts of kindness.

9 Develop your courage

One of the best ways of tackling fear is to start taking more risks in life. Why should you do something like this? Because taking a risk, doing something that might even scare you, will make you feel fully alive and vibrating. Consider these exercises to strengthen your risk muscle.

- Ask your boss for a raise. Most people are underpaid for what they do, so ask!

- Call someone up you’ve been meaning to call and, for, whatever reason, haven’t.

- Ask someone to meet one of your needs.

- Apologise to somebody for something you did that hurt.

- Return something that you stole or ‘borrowed’ with the appropriate apologies.

- Volunteer to give a presentation or speech.

- Take a trip by yourself.

- Take the opposing side of an argument. Stand up for what you think.

- Go to dinner by yourself to a nice restaurant.

- Take a class in scuba diving.


What is the relation to being irresistible? People who never take risks are rather dry and stale. They maybe stuck in a comfortable groove that even they find boring by this time. A risk or two will freshen you up and shake loose any cobwebs that might have been gathering around you. Keep challenging yourself to do something new and scary and you’ll attract wonderful opportunities.


from the indiatimes network.