Seduce through your eyes!!

Seduction is not just a mind game, your eyes play as important a role. We help you perfect your moves...

All that talk about first impression and lasting ones... well, that’s not all jazz you know. Whoever said it sure knew what they meant. And guess what, if you want to seduce someone, you’ve got to do more than just dress and speak the role, you have a secret yet powerful tool at easy disposal, your eyes. Making the right eye contact and giving the right signals via your eyes to the person you are interested in means about 50 per cent of your work done. The truth is that most of the communication that occurs between two people who are interested in each other is wordless, it’s all about the looks.

Even the experts will vouch for this. In fact, communication and body language counsellors opine that the basic components of eye behaviour are easy to master once a person knows how they work. So, if you want to ensure that you always use your eyes fluently and with dazzling effect, here are four simple steps you need to follow.

Establish : The first thing you need to do when you meet is to look into the eyes of the other person. A confident look will create a positive first impression. Establishing eye contact is a specially handy tool when you’re trying to gain the attention of an unknown hottie or cutie. In this case, don’t keep staring at him/her, it may feel like you’re stalking them. Instead, make short frequent glances. If the opposite person reciprocates your move and holds your gaze, it a silent signal that you have the ‘permission’ to go ahead and initiate a conversation. Start of with introducing yourself.

Maintain : Now that you’ve started a conversation, it’s time for step two. Yes, we agree you can’t keep looking into each others eyes forever, but try to maintain eye contact for as long as it’s possible. Studies say the average gaze time for an average listener is a minuscule three seconds. But you need to go a tad further, try to hold your partner’s gaze for at least five to seven seconds. This will make it look like you’re paying attention and care about what the other person is saying. How does this work? It’s a two-way effect. While is makes the person opposite feel important, it will make you more ‘attractive’ in their eyes. Mission accomplished!

Maximise : You know your mission and you know that it’s your eyes that are going to be in focus. Hence, it’s most important that you pay attention to how your eyes look. Ladies, don’t hesitate to do them up to best effect, there are tons of products available in the market to help you. And it is a know fact that kajal gives the eyes a certain depth while clearly defining one’s eyes.

Widen : There’s something about large eyes that catches the attention of the person opposite. And ladies, though it may be a tad exaggerated in movies, fluttering your eyelashes does have that devastating effect on the opposite sex. There’s also a technique that will help you make your eyes appear larger; raise your brows and slightly lower your eye lids. If reports are to be believed, Marilyn Monroe herself often used this highly successful technique.

There you have it, now that you’ve mastered the formula, it’s time for you to try it out.

I did not die . . .

Do not stand by and weep . . .
I'm not there . . .
I do not sleep . . .
I am the thousand winds that blow . . .
I am the diamond that glints on the snow . . .
I am the sun on the ripened grain . . .
I am the gentle autumn rain . . . of quiet birds in circled flight . . .
I am the soft stars that shine at night . . .
Do not stand by & cry . . .
I am not there . . . 
I did not die . . . . . .

from obituary of Namrata Chadha, pg. 8, The Times of India, Saturday, June 14, 2010.

10 Habits of happy couples

What does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you’re working to improve your marriage, here are a few habits of happy couples.

1. Go to bed at the same time

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.


2. Cultivate common interests

After the passion settles down, it’s common to realise that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimise the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.


3. Walk hand in hand or side by side

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.


4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.


5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong

If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.


6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work

Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.


7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning

This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.


8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel

This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.


9. Do a “weather” check during the day

Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.


10. Be proud to be seen with your partner

Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact - hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behaviour that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behaviour to become a habit. So select one of the behaviours in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit...and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.


If there was one key to happiness in love and life, and possibly even success, it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, "Just Listen."



from the indiatimes network

Proposal Panga's

Valentine's knocking on the door making some more than happy and some more than nervous, here are some moral boosters for the latter kind.

What if she slaps me?

Most negative outcomes occur only in our minds, not in the real world. A woman won’t be mean to you unless you act like a jerk. Even if she turns you down, she’ll love being approached.

Gyaan: To excel in life, you have to push through your fears. Those who do, become champions.

She’ll think it’s too soon...

Real men don’t wait for the woman’s approval. He leads and she follows. She prefers it, but will never tell you. Any time you feel is a good time to ask her out.

Gyaan: It’s better to move fast and apologise, than move too slow and be put in the friend zone forever.

She’s always with friends...

Approach her group and involve everyone in conversation. It’s a huge turn-on for a woman to see a man hold court among her friends. Get her number so that you can exchange information about something she said during the conversation.

Gyaan: The harder the situation, the more she’ll appreciate your effort.

I freeze when I see her

You freeze because you care, and you care because you view her as the prize. Imagine ‘you’re the prize that she is pursuing. Tease her playfully. Each time you meet her, accuse her of stalking you.

Gyaan: Accusing a woman of treating you like a sex object leads to fun flirtations and never-ending conversations.

We’re too friendly to get romantic

She needs to see you as a sexual being. Step up your sexual communication. If she touches you accidentally, say with a cocky smile, ‘You’re touching me a lot lately.’ Or say, ‘Oh my God, you smell great. What are you wearing?’

Gyaan: Don’t abruptly get into boyfriend mode and send her flowers. That’ll make things awkward.

What do i say?

Whether it’s the first date or the first kiss, if it’s a big deal for you, it’ll be a big deal for her as well. Never ask a woman out straight on, instead tell her you’re going and she can join you.

Gyaan: Women prefer a man who is already having fun, so that they can join in too. It makes them feel as if they are already a part of his plans.

What if she tells her friends?

Well, then all the girls will know that you’re a sexual being and all the guys will wish they had your guts. Celebrate it, man!

Gyaan: When we see a man approach a woman, even if he’s rejected, we secretly admire his courage.

Maybe she’s taken...

Maybe she’s in a serious relationship; maybe she has a boyfriend... If you don’t approach and learn later that she was single, you’ll be kicking yourself, won’t you? So it is better to deal with this head on... There’s no other way in a relationship, buddy.

Gyaan: The pain of regret is worse than that of rejection. If she says no, at least you’d have tried... Else you’ll be kicking yourself for life.

Maybe I’m not her type

Men often assume ‘she’ is beyond their league. Here’s a secret: There is one type of man women are attracted to — the alpha male. A dominant, well-groomed, funny guy who is the social centre of the room.

Gyaan: With practice, any man (regardless of age, looks or bank balance) can learn to be the alpha male.

The basics will do

Only a few men approach women. Just having the guts to do so does the trick. Don’t approach her with the objective of making her like you. Do it with the objective of making her have a better time than before.

tere jaane se . . .

. . . tere jaane se to kuch badla nahi . . .

raat bhi aayi thi aur chand bhi tha . . .

tere jaane se to kuch badla nahi . . .

saans bhi waise hi chalti hai . . . hamesha ki tarah . . .

aankh bhi waise hi jhapakti hai . . . hamesha ki tarah . . .

thodi si bheegi hui rehti hai . . . aur . . .

kuch bhi nahi . . .

tere jaane se to kuch badla nahi . . .

hont khushq hote hai aur pyaas bhi lagti hai . . .

aajkal sham se hi sard hawa chalti hai . . .

baat karne pe dhuan uth ta hai . . .

jo dil ka nahi . . .

tere jaane se to kuch badla nahi . . .

raat bhi aayi thi aur chand bhi tha . . .

haan magar neend nahi . . neeeend nahi . . .

* taken from 'Sunset Point' from Gulzar

tum . . .

"aaj bhi sawaal hai dil mein, pyar ka gham bhi zubaan hai is dil mein,

kuch keh nahi pata yeh dil, magar tumhare dil ke liye bahut pyar hai is dil mein"

~ swats'~